Nov 30th 2025

The Basics Of BDSM In Pictures

Explore or refresh the basics of BDSM with this simple infographic.

BDSM

basics

BDSM is a Game

Every action in the kinky play of BDSM is namely a PLAY. Each party plays a role, no more, no less. It's a life-like experience, but it's also a scene.

BDSM is Trust

Power exchange , a.k.a. submitting yourself or taking control of someone is very responsible. Only once the trust is mutual and complete, a perfect union is possible

Not so obvious bonuses of BDSM

Stress release

it’s a whole lot of fun and relaxation, which allows to release all negative energy
Safety

BDSM gives a possibility of reliving your boldest fantasies almost as in reality, with no physical or psychological harm
Renouncement/
acceptance of responsibility

people with a lot of responsibilities will often crave submission to someone and vice versa
Absolute trust

the feeling of being controlled/controlling requires profound confidence in the partner
New experiences

one of the most wonderful features of sex is that it can always amaze you, open new horizons

Rules
of BDSM scene

Make a
"safe-word"

if the safe word is spoken, the scene must stop. ALWAYS respect the safe-word
Stick to the character

don’t ruin your fantasy by steeping out of the role or interrupting the scene
Be careful

never experiment without having a consent
Be honest

don’t hide anything, be open-minded and open-hearted
Communicate

talk about your preferences and explore each other’s needs and desires
Be respectful

it looks like the Sub is serving the Dom, but in reality they are serving each other
Be realistic

respect your bodies’
abilities; end the scene
with wanting more, not
wishing there had been less
Be patient

if your partner needs time, don’t rush him/her